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Only Child.  No More Kids. 

There is always someone who asks or says “well, do you guys plan on having anymore children?”, “you don’t want her growing up alone and spoiled.”, etc.  But you know what, fuck y’all.

​I am an only child and so is my daughter.   I am absolutely thrilled that we chose to not have anymore kids at all.  I refuse to live up to society’s expectations to have another child.

So here are 10 reasons why I chose to have only one child:
1.  Babies are and can be hard work.  Honestly though, I had it SO easy with Jody that it makes other parents jealous as fuck.  Since being born, she has always slept through the night (seriously we never lost any sleep), she was always a quiet baby and even a quiet kid, always well behaved, etc, the list goes on.

2.  Traveling is easier with one.  The three of us can fit anywhere, we don’t need much space and we never need to pack too much.  If I recall, between the three of us, we only need maybe two suitcases for all our stuff (I am talking about a 2 week vacation).  We prefer to travel light.  Plus there is no yelling coming from the back.

3.  I am all about saving the planet.  Before having a child, I could confidently say I was a low-impact human.  I have seen first-hand how much waste one child can make, even with using cloth diapers and having conscious parents.  My daughter is only 5, so I know she still has a lifetime worth of consumption and waste ahead of her.  The planet doesn’t need more people.  

4.  I have dreams and goals I don’t want to put off.  Like it or not, having a child requires a significant sacrifice from both parents, particularly the primary caregiver. After five years, I’m still trying to get my life back together and identify myself as an individual who just happens to have a child.  Not to mention, I’m trying to scrape together the time to exercise (which I always make sure to make time for), study, do house work, cook a decent meal or read a book.  After having a baby, most women can write-off at least a year of their lives purely for baby-rearing. That’s something I’m just not willing to do again.

5.  Having a child is a long-life commitment.  Once that baby is born, he or she is yours forever.  You will always be your child’s go-to support person, safe place and (sometimes) financial institution.  I honestly feel like I’ve already committed myself to enough.  I’m married!  That’s pretty epic.  I have a mortgage — double epic.  Okay, so maybe I struggle a little bit with commitment, but I’m changeable.  I might want to run off and live in New Zealand or Japan one day, and we could do that easily with one kid.

6.  More children means MORE expenses.  As my daughter gets older, the more money we need to spend on food, clothes, schooling, and activities.  I can add up how expensive it would be to put another child into the mix.  At times, especially in the economy now, money can be tight, but I am grateful to say it isn’t a big source of stress in our young family.  Having another little person drawing our funds could tip the balance, and push us into chronic financial stress.  Um, no thanks.

7.  There is not enough of me to go around. To be honest, I’m spread thin as it is.  I know plenty of women who have two or more children and are constantly struggling to find time for themselves, keep fit, study, socialize (child-free), work or follow their dreams.  They’re tired, cranky, and turn to wine to deal with their stress.  Full disclosure:  Some days I barely cope with the pressure of my one and only child on top of day-to-day happenings, like keeping the fridge stocked, staying up to date with my work, and thinking of things to keep her entertained.  Some days I have period pain, and I can hardly even look after myself, let alone my daughter and ANOTHER child.

8.  If I am a good parent, my child won’t need me to produce a playmate.  I’ve heard of parents having a second child purely for the purpose of giving their firstborn a playmate.  I know of more siblings who fight with each other than play together.  One of my most important tasks as a parent is to be a playmate. I signed up for the job when I chose to have a baby.  I don’t want to send the kids off to play on their own.  I want to be involved in my daughter’s life.  It may not always be easy or convenient to jump in and play, but I’m happy to do it.  You can never give your child too much of you.

9.  I don’t care what society thinks I should do.  What I choose to do for me is my choice.  I’m not condemning your choices.  Whether you decide to have no children or 10 children is totally up to you. There’s no wrong way to love your family.  Just don’t let societal norms and judgments let you question your decisions.  People talk about “only children” being lonely and socially ill-equipped, but that’s just a stereotype.  My daughter is only 3, and she’s friendly, chatty, compassionate, approachable and, most importantly, happy to share.  I don’t care what people think.  I just want them to stop telling me what to do.  

10.  We are happy and comfortable.  We look forward and now focus on our future.  A new house.  A kick-ass vacation to a place we have never been.  The world is ours now to do what WE want.  We have had it pretty easy with Jody, and that is the way we plan on keeping it.  

So there you have it.

Xoxo,

Cheers, SKÅL

CountryCatGal

Weed + Wine = Divine 

Happy weekend and Happy Saturday folks!! 

There is nothing better than having some weed and wine.  I am a very big wino and I know my wines.  I personally prefer red; a nice merlot or malbec.  I am not a fan of the sweeter wines like a Rosé but during a hot summer day, a nice chilled glass of Rosé is quite tasty.  Right now, I am currently enjoying the lovely Eco-Frog Merlot•Malbec and all its goodness.  The best part too is that it is an organic wine and it is absolutely divine.  

Mmm…weed, the taste, the smell, love it all.  I have been cannabis user for 15 years and fully support it.  **If you are reading this and judging me because I smoke weed, wait…, vape weed, 1) you better do some hardcore fucking research on cannabis and its health benefits as it has saved my life, 2) get the fuck outta here.**  

I like smoking weed but I really prefer to vape it as it is healthier and better for your lungs.  I find the high lasts longer.  Makes you feel really good. I smoke indica and vaping it does not make me sleepy or fatigued at all.  I feel super calm and very relaxed, and if anything hurts, it goes away. 

I finally had a moment to share something and simply simple does it.  Have a great weekend! Stay safe and have fun. 
Xoxo, 

Cheers,

CountryCatGal

Oops, I Did it Again. 

And again, I has been two days since I wrote something.  It is not that I don’t or didn’t have the time…well wait, I guess it is because it has been so busy that I didn’t have time.  

We got a TON of snow over the last 36 hours.  I would say by now it is at a good 3 feet that we have accumulated.  I love snow and winter and all but this was way too much.  It is heavy and wet and I won’t be able to get my car through it. Plus I just had my winter tires changed over.  

It is not cold but if it is windy, it is not pleasant at all.  The geese came back a couple of weeks ago and they must be confused to all this but again, at least it is not cold.  

We went to Radek’s mums yesterday.  We haven’t seen her in about 8 months.   But it was a nice visit and she brought us back some wicked gifts aka clothes.  So, that was really nice of her.

Jody has developed a cough again.  She woke me up this morning at 5am complaining of her head hurting.  Poor kid.  Her first headache.  Turns out she has a head cold but she is taking it as a champ like always.  I always wish it was me instead.  

But I am off now to go do wife/mum duties.   Have a great weekend.

Xoxo,

Cheers,

CountryCatGal 

Two Days!!

I just realized it has been two days since my last post.  Everything is a little hectic at my house this week.  We are doing a lot of spring cleaning, both inside and outside the house.  Okay, I will admit, I am having a bit of writer’s block again.  I had a moment to sit down right now to write a little something.

Today, I finally got around to cleaning both of Jody’s rooms.  Spoiled much?  No.  She has a bedroom, a jack and jill bathroom which connects to her ‘living room’, as she calls it.  This way she has her own play area and a place to watch cartoons and Netflix.  We do not plan on having any more children so she is and will be an only child.  We are and have always taught her that she can’t have everything she wants and the world does not revolve around her.  She loves to share, so she is not a brat at all.

I also got around to organizing and tidying up the living room area, so that makes me feel so much better considering I am a bit of a neat freak.  I need an organized house at all times and it is a bit of a tougher trait to teach a 5-year-old.  Regardless, she is pretty tidy herself.

Radek’s mum and my uncle are coming back from Vancouver Island this week so I think we will be heading to visit them this weekend at some point.

I wanted to take Jody out for another walk today BUT it had to be windy as fuck outside and it’s not that it bothers me, what bothers me is that it is freaking cold.  Apparently the next couple of days, especially tomorrow, we will be getting about 10 mm of rain.  It will be nice to wash away leftover snow and bring some moisture.

I really don’t know what to else to say today but I promise I will brainstorm and have some good stuff come along the way here shortly.  I should run though, so have a good hump day!!!

Xoxo,

Cheers,

CountryCatGal

Story of My Life: Part Three

You know, all I actually remember from my childhood is the abuse.  The only good times I remember was either when I was in school away from home or at a friends place or when I first met my husband when I was about 7 or 8 years old.  Yes, for real, we met each other when we were kids.

Oh goodness, I still remember the day I met Radek as if it were yesterday.  He made me laugh a lot and still does till this day.  We grew up together; definitely lots of sleepovers, building of forts, playing Power Rangers, watching movies, etc.  We even went on vacation together to Vancouver Island.  That was by far the best vacation I had ever had.  My mum didn’t end up coming which for me was a nice change.  We ended up taking two vehicles.  Radek, his cousin’s Marta and Tomek, and his aunt and uncle in their van, and his mum with my uncle and aunt in their vehicle.

I believe the route we took was through Rycroft, AB turning right to head west in British Columbia and drove through a place called Dawson’s Creek (I do not think it was based on the TV show but it’s a real place), and from there on we headed south.  Another major stop on our trip was hitting up Hell’s Gate in the Fraser Valley.  It is completely spectacular and I swear anyone and everyone needs to go here at least once in their life.  Just breathtaking.  Once you hit Vancouver and area, to get to the island, you need to get on a ferry.  There are a few different ports to choose from depending where on the island you want to go and which port there is closer to your destination.  Our destination at the time was Victoria since my uncle owned a very lovely place there and big enough for all of us coming.

Taking BC Ferries is really cool too.  It is usually about a two hour ride.  Vehicles are left on the lower decks and you can go up to the upper decks where they have seating areas, both inside and outside.  They also have a souvenir shop, washrooms, and a cafeteria, and they even have a mini arcade on there now; I just don’t remember them having one back in the early to mid 90’s.  Regardless, really an amazing experience.  I remember seeing whales breaching during one of the rides.

Oh the Island life…  What I would do to move to Vancouver Island.  It is absolutely stunning and such a relaxed, calm environment.  Everyone is super friendly, and there is a TON to do everywhere.  I remember we went to this dock area and we got a chance to feed seals.  Also there is this other docking area for boats which is actually in front of the Empress Hotel in Victoria, where we went and had caricatures done of us, and we still have them; I need to get ours framed eventually here.

The amount of activities on the island are endless.  There is also the Butchart Gardens which is incredible and just beautiful.  It is a HUGE floral display of gardens that is a top tourist attraction and a national historical site.  You walk through different types of gardens filled with flowers and plants and trees that you would probably never see here.  There are shops and a restaurant but the walk through is by far the best part.

I also remember hitting up a museum, I just do not recall the name of it or what it was about.  Some things are pretty vague.  There was also a massive butterfly garden though and I remember that being really neat.  (I think it is in the same location or around the same location as the Butchart Gardens.) 

We had a ton of fun.  At the ages of 31 and 33, we still have fun.  I knew at a young age that I would marry Radek and I am so glad I did.  Don’t get ne wrong, there are times when I want to strangle and kill him but I love him more than anything and fall in love with him on a daily basis.  We don’t fight.  We don’t argue.  With us, everything is out on the table and there are no secrets.  We communicate a lot and I think that is what makes us work so well.  

Stay tuned, there is always more to come.  I am going to blog more sporadically on this series just to keep you all interested and for you to come back and keep on reading.  Have a good Monday evening. 

Xoxo, 

Cheers,

CountryCatGal